If I could go back in time to when I got married this is the first thing I would change. To be honest, ‘first looks’ weren’t really a thing when I got married, 13 years ago. The whole concept is definitely new, but it has really stuck and there’s good reason for that.
My first impression of a first look was that it would take away from the special moment of when the groom sees his bride walking down the aisle. But, that’s not the case at all, in fact I’m going to debunk that mindset. It actually creates that moment in slow motion, for just the two you, and creates more opportunities to capture your love.
There are tons of reasons I recommend a first look. Check out my top 5 and share your thoughts in the comments.
- Alone time: Think about it; when you, the bride, start walking down the aisle- everyone is watching you, there is a lot going on in that moment and it’s easy to get overwhelmed with emotion. After the ceremony, you go right to photos and then to the reception. It’s busy! This small window of a first look before the ceremony allows that moment of quiet and intimacy, just between you two. You can concentrate only on each other, his face, her smile, his emotion, something likely to get lost while you are walking down the aisle. You get to enjoy this moment together, embrace each other, take a minute to slow down. You will have all day with your guests, there’s only one first look!
- Favorite: Every bride and groom I’ve ever done a first look for tell me it was easily one of their most favorite parts of their wedding day, as well as some of their favorite photos! Even the ones who were hesitant prior, they were all so glad they chose to do it! They look back at that moment and remember it all, exactly how they felt and how their spouse reacted. They said it ”set the scene and excitement for the entire day.” One groom I spoke to was worried he wouldn’t feel the same ‘shock factor’ when his bride was walking down the aisle. “Nothing could take away from that moment of seeing the woman of my dreams walk towards me to marry me, the first look only made me enjoy that moment more.” (Cue all the tears.)
- More portrait time: This is a big one!! A first look guarantees more portraits of you and your spouse. Let’s be honest, sometimes wedding day’s get hectic, it makes us ALL feel better when we know we got a solid 15-20 minutes in of extra portraits incase the weather goes crazy or anything unexpected happens. I also, of course, want you to have as many incredible photos as possible. You’ll be amazed at how many amazing photos we are able to capture in this little window of time.
- Genuine. Raw. Emotion: If you’ve looked through my website or have done a session with me, you know my style. Raw. Genuine. Real. Authentic. Emotion. Story telling. The first look is a perfect example as to how I capture that. Nothing needs to be said, no prompts, no posing. It’s just capturing the reaction of your soon-to-be husband seeing you in your wedding dress, your soon-to-be wife seeing you in all dressed up in your suit, just for her. It is as pure as emotion gets. And I’m standing back the whole time, its just you two love-birds. My job here is to capture the moment without interference.
- Being Present: Rather than worrying you will miss his look or being a big ball of nerves walking down the aisle. Most brides and grooms have actually said that the first-look calms them down before everything officially begins. Of course, this totally makes sense, who else could calm you down better than the person you are going to marry? What could be bad about having a little extra time to breathe and hold each other on the best day of your lives? When your nerves are calm you can be present more. This day will go by fast enough, I want to make sure you enjoy every single moment of it.
I also want to put the fear of other’s seeing you to rest. I always make sure that we chose a secluded spot to do the first look in. As well as ask a few members of either the wedding party, parents, or whoever you’d like to stand guard to make sure no one interferes.
The first look is one of my favorites. They warned me that he would probably tear up during this. He did. And we all did with him.